Grief and Gratitude

Michaela Rosales
Support Circle

Our brains are funny…

When we really think about it, we often know we have a lot to be thankful for.  However, when times are tough, it can be increasingly difficult to see the world in a positive light. 

Today, Good Friday, is the anniversary of my dad’s passing.  Fifteen years ago, this world lost a great man.  I would be lying if I didn’t admit that in the early days, I allowed my feelings of hurt, frustration and anger to take ahold of me.  I would find myself spiraling towards a depression that greatly impacted my family and relationships. 

I cannot control the fact my dad passed away.  I can’t control how the sadness creeps up on me as the anniversary of his passing approaches.  However, I can control what I do with my feelings and how I think about the day. 

Over the years I have adopted a few different coping mechanisms that help me process the day and stop it from completely destroying me.

First, I spend time in gratitude. 

No, this doesn’t mean I’m thankful my dad died, but instead, I reflect on all the wonderful time we had together.  I am thankful for the fact he had the chance to hold my first born when he was a baby. I am thankful my kids have some of his best qualities.  I am thankful I can share stories about him with my family. 

Second,  I spend time in prayer. 

God reminds me His plan is greater than any plan I could ever come up with. “We can make our plans but the Lord determines our steps” Proverbs 16:9.

Third, I hug my kids and husband extra tight,

and choose to have a celebration of life with my family each year on the day he passed for that day was not the end of his story but the beginning.

I pray you are able to take some time today to reflect on what you have to be thankful for in your life and if you need a little push, then download my Free Gratitude challenge found in the link below.

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